Hey Mama Goose,
Wally is a great boyfriend. He remembers my birthday, brings me flowers, little silly gifts, puts up shelves and lets me vent about my malevolent boss while maintaining a concerned expression on his face. He even walks my dog, when it’s cold and rainy. I do get a little twitchy that my mother likes him, but most of the time I’m able to scoot around that hole in the sidewalk.
So you are probably wondering what’s wrong? I love to have my neck and back rubbed. He flat out refuses to do it, giving me the excuse that since he is a carpenter and uses his hands all day, they are tired at night. I love the guy, but I can’t imagine living a life with no back or neck rubs.
Any suggestions? No No not now Nannette
There are two ways we can look at this conundrum. One, we could attempt to figure out why the no back rub situation is a deal breaker for you. It sounds to me like Wally hits the ball out of the park on many issues. Every player strikes out sometimes. But that doesn’t mean he is cut from the team.
Or two, we shift the spotlight back over to Wally. It sounds to me like Wally not only likes to please you, but he wants to do it in a manner above and beyond your expectations.
So some evening set a mood of total nonchalance, so he becomes so relaxed that rubbing your back is merely an extension of him sharing his own soothed feelings with you.
On the chosen night instead of dinner at the table, tell him the two of you are having a living room picnic. Lower the lights and scatter a few Wild Goose candles. Three should be enough. Because they are in small glass jars, they aren’t too fussy or obvious. The point is to be casual.
Then bring out a few plates of appetizers. See my recipe list for some suggestions
.Of course a little night music is in order.
Boy howdy I’m getting into this. I’m feelin’ the vibe. Martinis are the rage, darling, don’t you know So here is a recipe for a Wild Goose Green Tea Martini for two.
4 oz Lemon Vodka
1 oz Grand Marnier orange liqueur
2 lemon twists
Combine all ingredients in a martini shaker with ice. Shake until chilled. Strain into two martini glasses. Garnish each with a lemon twist.
Repeat has necessary. So have enough supplies on hand for multiple repeats.
Lastly gently rub his neck. You will be invoking the power of suggestion without pressuring him by directly asking. His reserve and resistance should be sufficiently breached for him to make the transition to rubbing your neck.
If this doesn’t do it No No not now Nannette. Then I suggest you sign up for Match.com.